We were all rooting for you Kenya.

We were all rooting for you Kenya Moore: #justsayitaintso.

This past September, I saw the most unlikely alert in my google feed: Kenya Moore Announces Separation from her Husband of two Years. I was enraged after reading the article because I knew it wasn’t something from the rumor mill, or just some online gossip brewing. It was indeed true. The “Happily Ever After” had already came to an end. Watching how her and Marc’s storyline is unfolding on the 12^th season of the RHOA, it’s not hard to fathom this unfortunate turn of events.

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Why is Kenya’s story significant?

Kenya is a self-made girl-boss who stole our hearts when she won Miss USA back in 1993. But life hasn’t always been easy being Kenya. She was rejected by her own mother, and had her own encounters with domestic violence. We see her journey to find love where she kissed many “frogs” along the way. She never held back her strong desire to get married and have a child. Ultimately, this dream was finally realized when she got married in her late 40s, and gave birth to an adorable child, as a woman nearing 50. This in itself represents a symbol of hope for so many other women. I’m all for defying the odds, especially when there are naysayers saying that you can’t, or that you won’t. Thank you Kenya for proving them dead wrong! 

Where did things go wrong with Kenya and her husband Marc?

Kenya and Marc’s ideals differ significantly

Mr. Daly made it clear that he’s not about the “flash,” and is not a fan of Kenya’s recent Bentley purchase. Kenya articulated that her house is fully paid off, and that she can buy the car if she chooses to. Though unpopular, I can see where Marc is coming from here. Marc is emphasizing the need for a more substantial kind of security, as opposed to investment in an automobile. Perhaps their biggest disagreement are their views on signing a prenup. Marc says nay, while Kenya says yay. Again, though very unpopular, I tend to agree with Marc here. If you’re married, shouldn’t the plan be to be in it for the long run, or “all the way” as Marc intimates? While it is true that a significant number of marriages end in a divorce or separation, signing a prenup is akin to planning/preparing for that day in the sense that it is inevitable.

Then there’s the whole Marc is in New York and Kenya is in Atlanta thing..

We all knew that from the get-go, and Kenya knew what she signed up for. Sadly, with none of the parties willing to relocate to the other city, the then marriage seemed to be in a perpetual long-distance state. Does this mean it couldn’t have worked? Of course not? In fact, this is the arrangement for a lot of marriages globally. In many cases, you have long distance marriages or relationships along international lines. Moore of course wanted more.  

Intimacy or lack thereof

Kenya brought up the issue of intimacy in the marriage where Marc seemed to be drifting as her pregnancy progressed. She even noted that Marc didn’t want her to bring a nanny on their anniversary getaway. She ultimately spent the getaway with her daughter Brooklyn, without Marc in tow. Com’n now Marc, you gotta show ya girl some love man!

With all this said, Kenya’s marriage and plan for Daly being her “forever” guy, would soon come to an end. I’m not one to rejoice in another person’s misery or unhappiness, but Kenya, like Wendy, I was really rooting for you. However, is this karma coming your way for the way that you treat people? In this life, you have to be careful how you treat another person; what you sow is what you will reap.  

Kenya and Marlo

Really Kenya? What makes you think it’s okay to just storm into Marlo’s wig launch promoting your own hair care line with a whole marching band in tow? That level of disrespect is #notokay ma’am. Some said that having a baby would have changed her for the better, but a leopard clearly doesn’t change its spots. Won’t touch on all the Kenya dynamics with her cast members, but girl, if you’re not being mean, evil, or petty, you don’t feel like Kenya, do you?

Regifting the doll that Eva gave Kenya was a move done Kenya style which was again, a rather low blow. While these occurrences are independent of your marriage, maybe it should occur to you that your lack of happiness is a reward for how you treat people. It’s old and it’s tiring. So far we’ve seen great progress in Kenya and Porsha’s relationship, and I will give credit where credit is due. But chile, there’s a lot that needs to be fixed with ya. You’re a mom hunty, be a positive role model for your daughter. 

The behavior we’re seeing here from Moore, is a display of her own inner misery. People tend to project what they’re feeling or experiencing. 

I don’t know what the future holds for the Dalys or if there’s any hope for reconciliation. As for Moore, I can only hope that she has learnt her lesson that being evil is not the way to go. Someone who is clearly at a low point now, shouldn’t be so quick to play those infamous dirty moves that she has been doing lately.